Lets look at the ‘Superior Man’ and this is where a woman can measure up where a man stands in his current state without wanting a man to make sense or validate her feelings constantly & perspective in every situation and forget approval seeking because these are no longer traits of a real women but just a girl in love.
For starters from an early age men are taught to be socially successful they have to control, avoid and restrain their emotions. Therefore they are also encouraged by other men to avoid showing much emotional sensitivity by playing the ‘masculine teasing’ game so that the man will refrain from getting emotionally attached to the world around them. Sadly this is childish and apparantly from psychologist the reasons why men are frustrated as they aren’t sure whether it’s safe to be at ease and communicate all feelings with a women.
However this is also why men are driven nuts by women who constantly search for a deeper meaning in their relationship and analyse to understand what’s happening. Men want to relax and enjoy the moment. Women wants this too but the reason is takes women a while to adapt is because traditionally the female species selects her male by either accepting and rejecting the advances and courting behaviour of the male. For example she’s thinking “Are we for real? Cause you got millions of sperms that you can impregnate two women at once if ya wanted to, and if I’m stuck with you, one baby from you, I got to sacrifice 9 months of my life and morally to eliminate all potential offers and options from men out there”. Maybe this could be why in this modern society marriage are more of a sensitive subject and sought for from women incomparison to men as a kind of insurance of an honest women to stay honest in her past judgements and stay with a superior man.
Even when the man selects the woman, at the end it is she that is in control whether she accepts or not. On the upside as a protective measure women have a natural instinct that makes them highly selective when it comes to finding a male, these instinct come in to protect their limited reproductive resources. To a superior man seeing this quality in a women, it demonstrate to him that SHE is also in same par as him, SHE is in control of her emotions and desires. You’re both similarly having qualities that is attractive to each other, a quality where you’re showing that you have ownership of your life and relationships and that you don’t just fall into anything interesting that comes along (these are the carefree attitude of puppy love in teenagers). This is where your relationship goes from seeing each other as a semi-casual partner to seeing each other as someone that you know you would want to make a future with and that if you messes up you are an IDIOT!
What signals can you get from both the Superior man and an Honest woman? Look out for the refusal to tolerate behaviours and situations you don’t want in your life. For the man to see the selective signals from the woman, it will help the women to avoid all kinds of painful behaviour and situations with him that other women get stuck with and can’t fix.
When an honest woman want to go from a casual relationship to a committed relationship with a man, he would recognise 3 things about this woman:
1. She expects him to have certain aspects emotional and social behaviours of his life together in order for him to be with her.
2. She has desirable behaviour and characteristics that lets him know within she’s someone he’d enter a relationship with and subconsciously know not to funk her heart around.
3.She won’t allow a purely physical relationship to take place on its own, she will only continue when he meets certain standards.
The best thing before you enter a relationship and you know you want to be viewed as a superior man looking for a ‘real woman’ you have to set the right expectations and impressions early, and/or set by example to help direct her behaviour and what he sees as acceptable and unacceptable with you. This is the same message to a real woman looking for a real man, it will be up to her to set the standard for a man’s behaviour from the beginning, and if he follows she’s met her match if not and you accepted it is yourself to blame for ignoring ealier mis-match signs.
Similar to a woman until there is a ring on her finger; A man can easily change his mind from seeing her as ‘relationship material’ to someone he’s just dating until the right one comes along.
But it’s extremely difficult for a man to consider a woman for a real relationship when she started out as just a casual girl/just interested FOR NOW sex & intimacy.
For many years its been demonstrated that a man can have sex without desiring a relationship and now adays as been demonstarted from the episodes/movie of ‘Sex and The City’ women are playing the same field to accomodate immediate desires but not for long term commital stability.
